The long awaited day has come.
It took 9 whole weeks, but he did it. M earned 9 stickers from his teacher. Nine days without a time out at kindergarten. Not in a row, though I'm sure some of the sweet kids in his class have done that. Just 9 times.
It's wonderful to see him learning how to get along with kids his age. It's good to know he's learning that he can't always be the one talking, that it can't always be his turn, and that everyone has to wait sometimes.
Probably, for most kids, just a few days of adjustment is all it would take for them to pick up on the kindergarten culture. Maybe a week or two. (Especially since most of the class comes from all day preschool.) For M it has been hard, but at the end of the first quarter, he's getting there. It's not back-talking or rudeness that gets him in trouble, thank goodness. It's impulsive stuff- calling out answers, running indoors, making noises, annoying people.
For the last 2 days, M has carried a note in his pocket that says:
Step 1: Look at their face. Is it grouchy or happy?
Step 2: Listen to their voice. Is it annoyed or friendly?
Step 3: If you're bothering someone, walk away.
I'm realizing that, at least for M, a lot of things I assumed kids pick up on naturally need to be taught explicitly.
What is the procedure when you raise your hand but your teacher doesn't call on you?
What kind of face should you make to show you are waiting patiently?
What should you do if you get a warning from your teacher about making noise?
It's not that he's not smart. He is. But not good with reading people. I wouldn't shrug and say, "Oh he just doesn't get letters" or "Oh, he just doesn't have a head for numbers." So I can't just chalk this up as a weakness and leave it at that, either . He's working on it, and every success makes me so proud.