Yesterday our friends came to town for a volleyball tournament, all the way from Korea.
I've written about Malia before, and Mika, and how she will always be so special to me as M's first friend. And she was just as lovely as ever.
The kids played together so sweetly.
And I got to entertain sweet baby Kona for a while while the big kids played.
And, as it happens, have a generous piece of humble pie, too. As toddlers do, Kona reached for my snack - strawberries. I (embarrassingly) couldn't remember exactly how old Kona was or exactly when babies eat what, so I asked her big sister. "Does Kona eat regular food? Like snacks? Could Kona have this?" She assured me that she could, and I gave it to her. Just like that.
I didn't even think of what I was doing. What had frustrated me about other moms so many times. I just fed someone else's kid and, aside from making sure she could eat finger food, I didn't even think twice about whether or not I should.
I ran to apologize to Malia and make sure it was ok. She was in the middle of a game (sorry Malia!) but was fine with it. But I wasn't. I felt awful. It wasn't the strawberry, since she didn't mind. It was my own attitude. How dare I? I didn't want to admit the truth, even to myself, but it was undeniable. I am a hypocrite. I expect other people to check with me before they feed my kids, but I didn't hold myself to the same standard. And the worst is the reason why. Because I "knew" the strawberries were fine. I didn't really think it through in that moment, but subconsciously, I believe that anything I would feed a kid would be fine, (read: unlike all those lowlifes who feed kids crap and need to check with me first.) Ugggg. Feel horrible. I'm still imaging- what if she was allergic to strawberries? What if Malia hadn't said anything because she figured I knew better than to feed other people's kids?
So, though I still prefer people check with me before they feed my kids, I understand now when they don't. People trust themselves and their judgement. It feels normal. I can only expect people to respect our diet if I explain it myself.